... and not the kind that comes from your nylons or sucky-inny things. I am talking about people. This week’s meeting topic was on “relationships.” For me, that really hit home. I don’t have the highest self-esteem so I really just want people to like me. So I am always trying to make sure I am reaching out to people, etc. But, sometimes there comes a point where you realize that friendships are supposed to be two-sided. Each person needs to put in as much as the other. That is just how the successful ones work. Apparently, a lot of the people I thought were friends, were not. It became a one-sided relationship that I couldn’t handle anymore. But, that is too depressing to kick the post off with. I want to really start this post by thanking the people that support me on a daily basis. I thank my parents, my wife and my pups. In addition, I thank the people that let me bother them with questions/comments/thoughts/pictures all the time: Linds, Mel, El, Jim and Elizabeth. I also thank my Weight Watchers community (especially my leader Lisa), as well as, the online community (HealthyLoserGal, Brad Gansberg/7daychip, #runchat, #fitblog, #wwchat) that has flourished in support. Lastly, but not leastly at all: I thank my blog followers. It may be a small group, but I thank each of you for taking the time to read my ramblings.
I thank you all for understanding why I made the changes in my life that I did. Cut down the partying. Cut down the eating out. Cut down the sitting around. Increase the fruits and veggies. Increase the activity. Thank you for going along with me.
Ellie had an especially great idea. For her b-day, she got people together to run a 5k then go to brunch. I think that is one amazing idea. (I wish I could’ve gone, but work was calling). I think changing plans with friends from being completely food/drink based to something else is great. Ideas we threw around in our meeting were: movies in the park, trips to the museum/aquarium, running 5ks, walks near theLake, etc. Now, don’t get me wrong – every once in awhile I like to get my drink on, but sometimes it is nice to switch it up.
So in all this rambling, I thank you all for your support. Without it, I would not be succeeding the way that I am. To those that decided not to support me, there is a reason we were not meant to be. Someday I will understand it, but it still hurts. I try not to take things personally, but really it is how I am. I always wonder if it was something I did, or didn’t do, or if really they were just using me for what they needed then moved on. In some cases, I know the answer. In others, I don’t … and maybe I don’t want to.
Instead, I will continue to turn to the people that truly have my back in this journey. I will count my blessings for my haves … and not give a second thought about my have nots.